make ure your love i unconditional. make ure you love people in all kind of "weather". or ele what i the ue if we love a peron only when he i good or he i nice? when i need the people mot that when they leave me. all the time. o pleae, i hope you wont be like that. we alway have to conider the other party, your companion ituation and mood. maybe he in difficulty right now. that why hi mood i not o weet.
maybe he ha o much work to do and o many headache, o he cannot be o darling like uual. that time i the time when we need to how our mot noble quality, the way we want ourelve to be.it not that if you are weet to that peron then he will love you more. maybe he will, maybe he wont. but that i not the point to be good and to be noble. to be good, to be noble i for ourelve becaue we chooe to be that way, we want to keep being that way, and we feel good about it. it not becaue, "okay, now he need me more. if i how more ympathy, then our love will be h2er"; it not even to be conidered.but mot of the time we fail the tet. when people are in mot difficulty, we jut leave them, or we are cold and indifferent. "oh, youre not nice to me. all right, all right.";"youll come and need me oon."; of coure they will. when theyre in a better mood, when everything goe better, of coure theyll come around. but then it too late. then it i not love anymore. it jut a need for each other. that different, becaue you are ued to each other and you need each other ometime out of habit, out of convenience, out of financial ecurity reaon -- anything. but it not true love.[由www.hAozuowEn.com整理]
true love alway prevail ,true love i we tick together in "thick and thin";. epecially when it thin, when it troubleome. then we hould really bridge over the "troubled water". that what they ay in englih. but mot of u fail the tet, to ourelve, not to our partner. he might leave you, he might tay with you, becaue youre nice or not nice. but you fail yourelf. you leave yourelf. you leave the mot noble being that you really are. o we hould check up on thi to our family member or whomever that i beloved and dear to u. mot of the time in critical ituation, we jut turn our back and that i no good.
of coure we have our anger, our frutration, becaue our partner are not a loving a uual, or whomever that i; but he or he i in a different ituation. at that time, he or he i in mental uffering. it jut a bad or even wore than phyical uffering. phyical uffering you can take a pill or you can have an injection and it top or at leat temporarily top, and you feel the effect right away; or at leat if people are in phyical uffering, everyone ympathize with them.but when they are in mental anguih, and we pound them more on that, and we turn our back and become cold and indifferent, that i even more cruel, even wore. that peron will be wimming alone in uffering. and epecially they trut u a the net of kin, the net peron, the one that they think they can rely on in time of need; and then at that time, we jut turn around and are nobbih, becaue they didnt treat u nice o we jut want to revenge. that not the time. you can revenge later, when he in better hape. jut lap him.
actually, at that time, the peron i not hi uual elf anymore. he wa probably under very great preure that he lot hi own control. it not really lot hi own control, but for eample, when you are in a hurry, your talk i different. right? "hand me that coat! quick! quick! quick!" thing like that. but normally, you would ay "honey, pleae, can you give me that coat." i that not o? (audience: ye.) or when youre in pain -- for eample tomach pain, heartache or whatever -- you cream loudly; and anyone who come to talk to you, you dont talk in the uual way anymore, becaue youre in pain.
imilarly, when you are in a mental or pychological pain, you talk alo in a very grouchy way, very cro. but that i undertandable. o if we -- any o-called loving partner or family member -- do not undertand even thi very leat, very baic concept, then were finihed. then we are really in a bad ituation. it not that the partner will do anything to u. whether he doe anything to u later or not, that i no problem. the problem i u. the problem i we degrade ourelve, that we make le of a being of ourelve than we hould be, than we are uppoed to be, or that we really are. o do not make le of a being of yourelve.